Anger is a self-destructive tool. Trust me, I know because I have lost my cool and it hasn't helped me in a constructive way. Does anger solve your problems?
If anger solved all the problems in the world, this world would have been a perfect place centuries ago.
Anger is self-destructive, don't find out the hard way!
Anger is a self-destructive tool, which does not help you to grow. When anger takes hold of you, learn to take a long, deep breath and don't act upon it.
1. Practice absolute silence. Stay away as far and as long as possible from whatever situation has ignited the anger till the mind is calm, still and able to reflect on the core issue more objectively. When the mind is still, when the thoughts are in your control, there is no scope for anger to rule you.
2. Take deep breaths. Inhale and exhale so slowly that you can feel the breath enter and leave your body like a beautiful breeze. Do this for as long as you can and focus on the breath. Thoughts will slowly cease, your mind will become a shining, empty vessel and you may even wonder what made you angry in the first place.
3. Take a walk. Walk, run, skip but do any constructive physical activity that makes you thrash out your anger without hurting anyone.
4. Listen to soothing music. This really works.
5. Sip a glass of cool water, very very slowly. Concentrate on how it cools your heart, throat and frayed nerves. You will find yourself relaxing, the coolness ebbing away the heat of your anger.
I leave you with this beautiful quote from Bree Despain, The Dark Divine:
“Remember Grace, if you let anger into your heart, it will push out your ability to love.”
Comments
This is a very timely post as far as I'm concerned because I had a bout of anger just yesterday. Now I'm not a person with a short temper. I rarely get angry or rather I’m slow to anger. A lot of people who know me don’t even think that I am capable of getting angry!
On the rare occasions that I do get angry, my anger usually lasts for a long time, for hours. Yesterday was one such day. Something got to my nerves and it just blew my fuse. I felt like a raging bull ready to smash everything in its path. A lot of my suppressed anger and bottled up frustrations came out yesterday. It was a terrible experience.
For controlling anger, I'd like to mention a couple of points. I’ve tried these before and they were helpful (though not always):
1. Write it down:
Try and write about your angry outburst. While writing, just write down whatever comes to the mind. Don't edit or proofread the article while writing. After 20-30 minutes of writing, the anger level can come down.
I don’t really know the logic behind this, but I think you end up transferring some of the anger from your head into the laptop.
2) Try and get some sleep:
Sometimes all you need is a good sleep. You wake up feeling better. I guess this works on occasions when the root cause of your anger is exhaustion or an overworked mind.
Kudos for touching upon a very good topic and sorry about my lengthy comment.
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it may be the most common reason but the other factor that could cause anger is 1 ) excess energy in your system - sometime you do spiritual practise and you get soo much energy ,may be more than you can hold - then its like water trying to escape from a faucet.
2) Anger due to empathy -Some one hurt your friend or dear one Or you read news about cruelty to people
3) anger due to pain - Some one says or does bad to you or someone you love