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How to treat your ego with love

This is a summer of learning new lessons every day, only to remind the ego to not react to everything around but just let it pass. The ego routine is a tough nut to crack. Treat ego with love. 

Identify what it triggers, why and then embrace it, like this, "Buddy, I understand your game. But guess what? I'm over this game." 

Love is the only weapon that can destroy the ego. 




"What is the ego?" or "Why see ego as a bad thing?" are questions that a logical person is bound to ask. More importantly, if it is bad, why love the ego?

The ego is what drives you to identify with everything that binds you down in the form of attachment. The ego forces you to ask these questions assuming the guise of curiosity. In that sense, the ego is a good thing for your growth. In most cases, however, ego is a fantastic story teller that deceives you to make the wrong choices but advocates very strongly that you are always right, never wrong. [READ: A Dad's Advice to the Daughter He Loves]

Your ego plays up your painful memories and holds another person responsible for it. So powerful the cue is, every time that person appears in your life or timelines, you remind yourself, "This person hurt me, is responsible for all the grief and pain that I went through...this person is responsible for my misery.."

Wrong, wrong, wrong! 

This is your ego's story. Go within yourself.  

Your expectations of what others should do or not do are your wounds.

Contemplate deep within. Is X, Y or Z truly responsible for your misery?

Or are your thoughts responsible?

Take charge of your thoughts. Then everything will fall into place. 

The real story is no one can hurt or put you through any kind of pain unless you allow your ego to let it happen.

Little by little, the lessons of the Masters are flowing through me even as I sometimes lose my way with clarity. 

My thoughts can be quite a riot sometimes. But I have now trained my mind to a trick that works wonders.

Shall I share it with you?

Maybe it can help you,

I sit in a quiet place and take deep breaths - inhale and exhale. 

Then I let my consciousness sink into light, where all thought is light centered around the heart. The light expands to encompass everything and everyone.

The light is soft and golden.




I begin to feel luminous within. I begin to disconnect from the body and senses.

There is only breath that connects to the body, which I witness as being temporarily mine.

Like a house that you take for rent but you know that it's not really yours.

The ego makes its presence felt. Of course, it has to do its job well. It shows people and incidents that have deeply wounded me.  It knows my triggers and wants me to react. A tug of war follows.

I feel only the Light that is embracing me from all sides.

With every bobbing thud of my heart, I can feel many voices and their chants resonate in my cells. 

The sun scorches the truth into my skin. The grace of God offers me the shade that comes my way. [READ: The Wisest Lesson I learned in 2019]

The Masters are watching my love-lit path. Still a long, long way to go.

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