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Want to make a change in your life? 3 simple ways to add joy to your life

We are all caught in a rut. Crazy busy. Sometimes, we forget to breathe or taste what is on our plate. 

We check e-mails on our phones as we eat. We forget to laugh when our loved ones share a joke and we forget to smile. 

We are too busy to smile. [READ: Work, Love and Play like the Danes ]

Been there, done that. 

Here are the little things that I am doing for myself to change this:

1.  Breathe in, breathe out mindfully

Have you noticed how your breath changes when you are nervous or angry or upset about something? Watch your breath because it is closely aligned with your mind-body well being. That's the key to good health and happiness. The more you breathe in and breathe out mindfully, the happier you will feel. [Do READ: Five Easy Ways to BOOST Your Confidence]

You will feel light all day. And when worry comes your way, make this your mantra - breathe in light, breathe out love. It works beautifully for me.

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 2. Don't disturb people and don't let people disturb you

With Facebook, Twitter and so many channels of communication, we experience a lot of "noise" from updates, tweets and so on. Most of the time, we are so busy "reacting" to posts or tweets that we fail to "listen" or "understand" the perspective of the other person. So many arguments erupt not because of an issue alone but our reactive approach to an issue. [READ: QUIET: The Power of Introverts ]

Ask yourself: Do I really need to react to this? How important is this to what I do in my life?  [MUST READ: SIX HAPPINESS LESSONS]

Simply put, prioritize and pick your battles responsibly. This approach can do wonders to perk up your positive energy too.


3. Stop comparing yourself with others.

We beat up ourselves with constant inner dialogue about why we are flawed. Your life is your precious journey.

Each step of the way marks your unique strengths and abilities that set you apart from every other person in this Universe. 

Celebrate your uniqueness, the strengths that make you special and don't compare yourself with others at any phase in life. 

In this world, there is no other person like you. You are you. There's no one else. [READ: A Dad's Advice to the Daughter He Loves]

Remember that always. It's your strength. It's what makes you special.

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