Ask More, Fear Less: How we think about the choices we make

It is easy to get caught up in following what others do. But sometimes we also need to enjoy the quirks of "thinking" for ourselves.

There will always be specific areas where we wish we could be 100% perfect or that we could take a more balanced view.

Whatever that may be, how we think about the choices we make for ourselves is more important than what we think.

[Also read: Jealousy - Why do we feel it? and Why are women mean to women?]

There's a well-know story about a lady who always cut off the end of the roast as a practice.

When asked by her daughter why she followed this method, she had no answer. She didn't know. She said that her mom always did it and she had just followed it.

She phoned her mom and asked why she always cut the end of the roast. Turns out that her mom only had a small roasting pan and the roasts never fit unless she chopped off the end of the roast.

BUT now: she had a big roasting pan, so why was she cutting off the ends of the roast, like her mother did?

She was following a 'family practice' without ever understanding why.

Arjuna asked. Lord Krishna answered. Lord Krishna didn't say, "You are a sinner who questioned the Word of God." Lord Krishna encouraged Arjuna to ask more.

I can't think of a better example than Lord Krishna to illustrate this point.

Ask yourself "WHY" before every action. Don't follow any practice blindly.

[ALSO READ: 3 SIMPLE ways to add joy to your life & Walking the Red Carpet]

I know, I know, it's not easy.

But still..... know why you choose to do what you set out to do.

I would love to know what factors you weigh in when you make a choice ....it could be anything...buying a new book or a dress or tasting a new dish, visiting a new place, etc.

Do tell me about the process you follow while making choices for yourself. I'd love to hear from you!

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