In relationships, there's a lot that happens. We make mistakes, we fight it out and based on what happens thereafter, we forgive, let go or we walk off without a backward glance. Worst case scenario? We split up. But there's one thing though. Nothing erodes trust more than a lie or a ridiculous excuse that borders on being as dishonest or ethically incorrect or just plain malice or meanness. These are the surest culprits in eroding relationships and reducing them to nothing. Happens all the time.
1. Live in the Present, Take Responsible Action
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1. Live in the Present, Take Responsible Action
We live in the 'now' moment. The present is all that eventually matters. So if you have been lied to or your lie has been discovered, don't waste more time by thinking and worrying about it. ACT now. OWN up if you are guilty. CONFESS it with all your heart unless you don't feel guilty about what you've done. If you have been lied to, be at peace. Karma has a natural way of coming back to the perpetrators and that too with triple effect. No one escapes it. Pray for the liar. He/she will really need it.
2. Promise yourself it won't happen again
You've taken moral responsibility for your action but that isn't enough unless you can formulate a clear promise that it won't happen again. If sincerity isn't your strong cup of tea, find ways to cultivate it. Get friends to help you get back on track. Trust me, the effort is worth it. It can save humanity some day. You never know till you try it.
3. Stay true to your core values
If you don't have any worth mentioning, simply introspect. Ask yourself ruthlessly over and over again if there's something more that can be done to repair the damage of that lie. Anything. Everything. Explore a million opportunities to fix things. It's the only safe fall-back option.
Your turn: What's the most important, vital ingredient in a relationship for you, that if once broken, it seals your relation with that person forever? For me, personally, the one thing that erodes my feeling of trust in any relationship is when a person is malicious or mean to me, not once, but repeatedly. That seals it for me. I walk out and I never look back no matter how many opportunities there maybe to fix things. Repeated instances of malice or meanness just gets to me and erodes my trust in that relationship. That nails it for me really.
What about you?
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