Househusband? Indian wives would probably give each other 'knowing' looks rather than admit it as something to feel proud about. But you know what, that is changing. It's not a bad thing, is it? Especially if you look at it from a woman's perspective. Will this trend find more takers? I don't know but I think it will gather momentum.
Chetan Bhagat as House Husband
The August 2012 issue of Child magazine presented the parenting views of Chetan Bhagat, best selling Indian author. Pleasantly surprised, I wanted to share some of the statements that caught my interest because I feel that it is bold for any Indian male to make these statements with such honesty and conviction.
For example, Chetan Bhagat states boldly, "I am a house husband. My wife loves to work. That does not make her any less a mother or a wife. She is true to herself, the kids and to me."
I can't think of many successful Indian men saying this with such intense passion. These views differ from person to person but the statement also springs a trend that is now taking root gradually in many parts of India.
Chetan Bhagat on Lavish Birthday Parties
Chetan Bhagat states that he always explains the ground realities esto kids. When they complain about how lavish their friends' birthday parties are, he tells them clearly that birthday parties are not weddings. It is a rule in his home that birthday parties are celebrated at home. If the kids continue complaining and comparing with friends, he tells them to go and live with their friends instead. He says it is important for kids to value money and have a sound sensible value system to live by.
I agree with this Birthday Party theory one hundred per cent. What about you? I'd love to know.
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agree with the birthday parties
1) Celebration and acknowledgement that you(or child)is special is definitely the purpose
2) Themed ostentation in the name of birthday is a waste of money and of course i always ask "whats the point:who are you trying to impress"
3) the child will be happy with Love and laughter....He or She does not come into this world with expectation of intricately carved cakes/ gifts/ give aways...we are the ones who create this for them
My boys are nearly grown now, but the big parties were reserved for their first 5 years, after that I was careful to honor their lives while creating special moments.
Times magazine blue eyed boy , and multinational corporate mouthpiece Chetan bhagat has been afforded an unprecedented marketing blitzkrieg, never seen before in india, for his book “ what young Indians want”.
He is John Galt’s ( of Ayn Rand fame ) and Walmart’s man rolled into one.
Punch into google search PERCEPTION AND RELATIVITY- VADAKAYIL, to check out a direct question to GURU chetan.
Capt ajit vadakayil
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I really liked the tradition that you have mentioned in the previous company. That's such a refreshing thought.
Regarding house husband, it's good to hear a different perspective around it. But yes, these days,both partners need to be working.
Work that is done by women as home makers is undervalued. Previously, we women used to undervalue it unknowingly too. Now there is more awareness, appreciation and acceptance to a great extent. Why do I feel so? Simple: I am battling criticism every day for choosing not to be a home maker by other home makers around me. So i from this I'd like to believe that they respect and appreciate what they are doing as home makers now more than say, two decades ago or a decade ago.
In Chetan's case, he may not fit the bill of what is known as a "House husband" but he's the one who takes pride in saying it, so no harm done there, I guess.
About the celebration of children's birthdays lavishly, I agree with you. One can have a good time without spending all of one's money. Like you rightly said, happiness comes from spending time with our friends.
Once again, thanks for sharing your thoughts in detail here. Truly appreciate it.
Thanks for sharing your thoughts here. Let's look beyond Chetan Bhagat and the reality is that not a lot of Indian men are keen to be labelled as 'house husbands.' There is a sense of social stigma attached to it in Indian households.
Regarding Birthday Parties, while it's an internal affair, it spreads its ripples far and wide into the lives of young saplings. One kid throws a lavish party and all kids who attended it start longing, yearning and crying to their parents for the same. The parents are the ones who have to face the dilemma. In most cases, parents give in and we see the trend of spending lavishly for birthday parties becoming increasingly common.
I liked the recreational birthday ideas that you shared here. I know a lot of parents who are doing those and I think it brings in a lot of fun and creativity all around.
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