A funny thing happened. A friend whom I don't particularly like or
get along with shared a link on Facebook that I had intended to share. It irked
me. Made me angry. Somewhat jealous. This probably sounds ridiculous to someone
as sensible as you. In fact, it sounds downright cheesy to me. I mean, I am not
some one who gets jealous over material things. I always consider myself to be
at peace from within. And to think that I got jealous over the sharing of a
link! Ridiculous! [READ: What are Tantric Practices? Find out!]
Unforgivable. I feel so bad about this. I have always steered
clear of jealousy. Because it blurs clarity and dilutes a person's focus. Then
why did I feel jealous? Why do we become jealous?
I thought it over. Seriously. Because I am not the jealous type
and i had to understand why I felt jealous for a few fleeting seconds.
When I contemplated on this, this is what I could logically come
up with:
“You can only be jealous of someone who has something you think
you ought to have yourself.” ? Margaret Atwood, The Handmaid's Tale.
True words! When you love something, someone or some form of
writing, you turn possessive about it because it is special to you or you feel
a sense of ownership with it. It could even be a book, a column or a blog you
love and develop an attachment to. So, when some one else shares it, you can't
stand it because you feel a territorial/intellectual/emotional ownership over
it.
This makes sense to me. But I don't know if you feel the same way.
And I want an honest answer because I am being honest with you.
So, tell me: Do you ever get jealous? If yes, what about? How do
you handle it? HELP: Give me some useful advice!
Comments
And, there are fleeting moments when it surges up from somewhere deep inside (mostly for silly reasons). I try to be aware & observant of it, not letting possess me for long & let it pass. :) without much disturbance.
When it comes to the matter of relationship, we find people with different mentalities.
1. People who feel jealous when their partner/lover move friendly with the opposite gender.
2. People who agree that its quite natural and there is nothing wrong to be friendly with the other gender.
3. People who does friendship with the opposite gender and restrict their partner from doing so. (im a 19 year girl, who faced it many times)
Finally what i want to say is, there may be many reasons for the lovers to get separated but what i feel is, the main reason is lack of understanding... and the people of 1st and 3rd kind may get separated only with the reason of jealousy...