Sunday, July 29, 2012

Gavi Trip 2012




2012 summer vacation will remain memorable for many reasons. One reason is that this was our first trip to a beautiful place called Gavi. It is part of the Periyar Tiger reserve and it is located near Thekkady. Since the entry passes to Gavi had to be obtained from the Forest Check Post and advance booking is required, we didn't want to get into the long winding booking process and took an easy way out. We had the resort's travel desk to get this done for us. 



Thus, we started at 4 am, a time when the sounds of the forest seem to awaken in a natural way. It was pitch dark while we were taken in a sturdy jeep with a friendly driver who knew the place inside out. The sounds of the forest fascinated me and yes, it frightened me a bit. Like a child, I kept looking out for an elephant to jump out at us from nowhere. :)) 


Gavi Superstition: First Vehicle at Checkpost
We had to stop at this checkpost for a while. We were told by our delighted driver that there is a superstition: if yours is the first vehicle to reach the checkpost that morning, it's believed that you will get a good sighting. Ours was the first vehicle on that day.




Mantra Power in Forest
Spiritual masters say that a mantra that is chanted in your puja room resonates divine energy according to the number of times you chant it. However, in places such as high mountains, forests, lakes and oceans, the divine energy that is generated within you when you chant your chosen mantra, that energy is equivalent to the expanse of  the said place. 


This also means that the divine energy can be stored within you and it can last a lifetime. So throughout the time we were in the Gavi forest, I constantly chanted my spiritual mantra. And the energy vibrations that I felt, I cannot even begin to describe here without feeling the same spirit of absolute bliss. You should try it some day too.  


From KFDC Forest 
From here, we were taken to the KFDC forest lodge. My parents didn't want to trek so they stayed here and they enjoyed the picturesque location. We had no worries about food since breakfast, lunch and tea time snacks are provided for in this package that we took. Sanand, Adi and I moved on with the guide for trekking as part of the elephant trail.






Okay, I've got to confess. Trekking's okay with me. Elephant trailing? Not my cup of tea, call me boring. But there was no way I was going to sit still while my husband and son went off on their own on the elephant trail. I'd probably die of worry and tension. So, for their sake, I decided to sacrifice my temptation to sit down with a book by the lovely Periyar lake there. Yes, we wore boot-like stockings so that leeches wouldn't stick to us while we go through the forest. 


Gavi Guide
What I hadn't anticipated was being with a bunch of risk-taking, highly adventurous group of guides. Our guide's name is Kannan, a Sri Lankan Tamil who grew up in the Gavi forest area and has been here ever since. He loves every inch of Gavi and you can hear it from the stories he tells. He was determined to show us elephants and thus we began trekking on the elephant trail.


The climb up the mountain was a painful as well as incredible experience. Painful? That is because you feel every muscle in your body stretch and strain in such a way that you want to run back and sit down somewhere instead. But incredible? Think about it: you are in the middle of a beautiful forest. You don't know what to expect. The animals are happy in their natural habitats. You are visiting their territory, knowing very well they aren't going to play the role of loving hosts to people who are clearly trespassing into their area. But there is a stillness to the air that feels as if you are not in an earthly plane and the air around is so pure that it feels like you have reached the cusp of heaven. 


Just breathing the air in Gavi, it felt like one will stay young forever. It just fills your lungs and your entire self with a beautiful feeling of being live and young. In the stillness all around, you can hear the chirp of an insect like a magnified sound. It frightens and thrills at the same time.


Gavi Forest Trek & How "brave" I was   
I won't pretend to be courageous. Not in a forest. While trekking through the dark green leafy patches, I could think of was "Will there be snakes around here?" But I knew there was no way to find out because as we explored the interior of the forest, everything was so dark and green, I'd not have spotted a snake if it were next to me.


What frightened me more was how swiftly Sanand and Adi were rushing ahead with the guide. They were so thrilled. Adi was faster and even ahead of Sanand at times. The guide marveled at his sense of adventure and caught his hand. 


So, slowly, we got close near a spot inside the jungle where an elephant was breaking off some branches and eating something. Now this may sound unbelievable but when the elephant broke off another branch, it felt like an explosion of sorts because the sound echoed throughout the forest. 


For someone like me who's only been around libraries and typical tourist spots, this frightened the daylights out of me. I cried out, "Aiyyo!Annaaa!" And then I dragged Adi and rushed out from the interior towards the path that leads outside. All I could think of was saving my baby from any kind of elephant attack. Behind me, the guide and the others rushed out. 


The guide told me,"Why did you make that noise? We were safe. I'd not put you all in any danger. The elephant is now alert and knows humans are around. It will feel threatened now. When you ran off like that, he could come after you much faster...this path is his path when he wants to come out. Don't run no matter what."


From Gavi, To Sabarimala
So he took us to another spot on the other side from where we hoped we could see the elephant when it came out. From that spot, we could see the Sabarimala temple and I bowed down and prayed to the Lord Ayappa for this 'distant' darshan. It was a beautiful experience to have a glimpse of the Sabarimala temple. As you know, women cannot enter the temple during their years starting from puberty till after menopause. For me, this unexpected darshan was a highlight of the trip! 






And just afterward, we saw three small wild elephants. It's not like I've never seen elephants before. But this was a totally different experience altogether. The elephants looked so free and happy in their surroundings. They seemed to move in slow motion, at times turning playful with each other. They looked like god's special beings. I felt tears spring to my eyes because I don't know whether I have seen anything so wild and so beautiful at the same time. Sanand, Adi and I watched this scene for a while till the elephants disappeared back into the forest. 






The delighted guide asked us, "Happy?" We were so happy, we just didn't have words to express it.


And then surprising us all, including myself, I asked the guide, "How soon can we do this elephant trail again? I loved it! Give us your number and contact details."


And yeah, right then, we all burst out laughing. But you know what, I wasn't kidding. I am going back to Gavi again. That's for sure. 

Wednesday, July 18, 2012

Tomato Rice with Light Flavors & Some Sweet Memories



I have fond memories of tomato rice with its strong, fiery flavors. Whenever we would embark on a train journey, my mother would lovingly prepare either curd rice or tomato rice and it would be well-packed in fresh banana leaves that were cleaned carefully. Everywhere I go, I check out tomato rice and it never tastes as good as my mom’s.

Recently, for some bizarre reason, I began to crave for tomato rice but with mild flavours that didn’t have the strong South Indian flavours. Perhaps it has more to do with keeping flavours light during the peak of summer.

Exactly then I found a tomato recipe in one of Anjum Anand’s cook books. Unfortunately, as the cookbook wasn’t mine and was lying around some place, I don’t recall its title. But I quickly scribbled the tomato rice recipe and finally tried it out.

Anjum Anand’s Tomato Rice

Ingredients

3 tbsp veg oil
½ tsp mustard seeds
2 cardamom sticks
4 cloves, 1 black cardamom
I small onion peeled and sliced
2 large cloves of garlic, 3 green chillies,
½ tsp turmeric powder
¾ tsp garam masala powder
1 tsp fennel seeds
3 chopped tomatoes
200 gms rice (soaked in water)
3 tbsps freshly grated coconut

My TWEAKS
Some coriander leaves
Some mint leaves

Method

Heat oil in a non stick pan. Add cloves, cardamom, cinnamon sticks and let mustard seeds splutter. Add onion and cook over moderate heat till it turns golden.  Stir in garlic and chillies and cook till the garlic stops smelling raw. Add the powdered spices and salt and cook for another 20 mins, keeps stirring gently.

Add the tomatoes, turn the heat up, cover and cook for 5 to 6 mins till tomatoes soften. (My TWEAK: Here I added freshly chopped coriander and mint leaves to the tomato mix and let it blend in well like mashed mixture with the tomatoes).  Remember, the taste should have no harsh elements at all. Add rice, stirfy, add required amount of water. Let it cook. When its done, add the coconut to the rice, give it a good stir, taste. Cook till rice is ready to be served. Serve with love.  

Sunday, July 15, 2012

Why chant Ramayana during the month of Karkidakam

For Keralites across the world who follow the Malayalam calendar, today marks the beginning of the month of Karkidakam. This month, which, decades ago, was known and slightly feared for its torrential rains and negative impact on the health, wealth and well being of Kerala's rural community. 

Why chant Ramayana during Karkidakam
To ward off the negative energy unleashed by Nature and its possible repercussions on one's family's overall well being, the wise elders introduced the timeless tradition of every family reading the Ramayana as an oral, spiritual tradition. Thus, it goes without saying that for Keralites who embrace these traditions, the act of reading the Ramayana is as much a spiritual cleansing as it is a kind of tradition they can pass on to bond with their loved family members, particularly children.

In the Ramayana, there is no 'preaching of principles' but you are taken through the Avatar's journey as a human being. Lord Rama depicts how a man should uphold virtuous ideals no matter what the conflicts within a family may be. He exercises his choices and decisions in a way that upholds Dharma. 

For every home, the Ramayana is a masterpiece on family relationships, honoring what is good and preferring to suffer to preserve family honor than do the opposite for quick material gains. It teaches us what siblings' relationships should be like. It teaches a wife how to love, honor and respect the choices they make together as husband and wife. 

What makes the reading of the Ramayana a beautiful experience is that it brings families together and clearly demonstrates without preaching how to strive for the ideal relationship between a father and a son, a husband and wife, between sibling, and even between rulers and citizens. It also deals with other important topics like public administration, leadership skills, governance issues and so on. 

Typically, many people have a problem with the way Rama treated his wife, Sita. I don't want to approach the Ramayana as a cynic. For example, I read the Bible several times. I don't want to know or logically probe into how Jesus walked on water as if it were magic or turn water into wine. I want to approach the story of God as the glory of the Lord, the choices He made and interpret it in the context of its divine sankalpa. The logical men and women can scoff for their loss is theirs and mine is a spiritual gain. My purpose in undertaking sadhana is and has never been material. I take pride in remaining steadfastly anchored in being spiritual. 


How to read Ramayana during the month of Karkidakam
As a child, I remember my grandmother reading the Ramayana in the evenings in the pooja room. A simple woman with tremendous spiritual energy, she didn't convert it into any specific ritual. She would make sure the pooja room was spotlessly clean, fresh flowers were plucked from the family compound and offered to the various forms of Gods kept there. And then she would light the brass lamps, sit down on a floor mat with the Ramayana book laid open and she would begin reading in her soft voice.
  
Her voice had a poetic flow to it while she read each chapter and contemplated on the words. As the brass lamps glowed, I used to see a gold like radiance around her face during the time that she chanted it. Perhaps it was a sense of glowing peace that comes from reading a a text as spiritually profound and relevant as the Ramayana. I don't know. But her radiant face always reminded me of the glow that God's glory can bring to the face of a true devotee.

After some chapters, if she was tired, she would stop it by offering namaskaram before the deities and then the reading would begin the following day.

Why the 'Bhav' is more important than the ritual of reading
The way you chant the Ramayana is not as important as the feeling, or rather 'bhava' behind it. You may read it with technical perfection but if you are not able to feel that intoxicating love for the Lord, and feel the pain deeply again for the Lord, then there is no point in any elaborate ritual of reading the Ramayana. The reading of the Ramayana unleashes within you your own divine self and gives you an inner cleansing and divine energy that is dormant within you. So if you don't do it with all your heart, it is best not to do it at all. That is why the wise elders say that reading this holy text is the best way to attain salvation. By reading this text, by immersing yourself totally in it, you forget everything but the Lord's story and glory.

2012: My First Time reading Ramayana during Karkidakam
For the first time in my life, I am going to read the Ramayana during the month of Karkidakam instead of listening to the story being told. There are several reasons why I have decided to do so. 

Firstly, my spiritual practices have slipped and been inconsistent this year, something that has not happened for years. For various reasons, I have not been disciplined about my sadhana. The monkey-like nature of the mind has played a dominant role in unsettling my spiritual priorities. Therefore, I want to make amends to myself by taking on a very disciplined spiritual journey that requires considerable attention to detail, contemplation and absolute focus on a daily basis. This reading of the Ramayana will ignite the spiritual repository that I have worked very hard to preserve and safeguard within. It is the very foundation of my purpose in life.

As a spiritual seeker, I take my spiritual slippages more seriously than anything else in my  life. If I miss a prayer because of indiscipline, I cannot forgive myself because it reflects the extent of how I value and honor my relationship and its roller coaster ride with my Divine Creator.

Secondly, I want my son to hear me read the Ramayana daily. I may not be a good example to him or to anyone but I want to know that I tried lighting the lamp of spiritual curiosity in a child's mind. I will never force my beliefs on anyone but I know the answers to the questions a spiritual seeker usually seeks. And in children, their best questions are usually the ones that are toughest to answer. The reading of the Ramayana will ignite spirituality not only in the one who reads it but it will cleanse the environment itself and the minds and hearts of those who listen to it. By reading the Ramayana, I sincerely and directly serve the Lord Himself.

Thirdly, I know I will make mistakes while reading it. I may slip at times in concentration or may fail to understand the significance of certain portions. But in every step that I take, I believe Lord Rama himself will take a hundred steps towards my faltering self. And for me, that awareness itself is like basking in bliss. Therefore, the unknowing mistakes I may make will be the grains of bliss and learning I derive from the act of reading the Ramayana. The Lord may not grant your wishes but on the spiritual path, if you falter, the Lord cannot watch on. He has to appear. He  always appears to those who seek His love and grace. For the first time, I am going to invoke the name and form and love of Lord Rama. I am in a state of joy and bliss because I believe this journey is going to be a truly memorable one for me. 

May Lord Shri Ram bless us all to merge with the Lord through simple, righteous living. 

Other Popular Posts
♥♥  I thank you with all my heart for reading this post. Please Share this article on your favorite social networks. Every share, like or tweet makes me reach out to more people in a positive way. I am grateful and I appreciate you for doing so. ♥♥

Cocktail, Friendships & Some Campus Memories


Friendships and its complexities are given a test and trial description in Cocktail starring Deepika Padukone, Saif Ali Khan and the lovely Turkish girl, Diana. Place them all under one roof and you know the chemistry is totally sizzling even though the script is old wine in new bottle.


Who's the Good or Bad Girl?
The portrayal of Deepika Padukone’s character Veronica is a good one as there are many young women like her. Deepika seems to do it naturally and almost effortlessly. She portrays well the pent up frustrations of a young, neglected girl who decides that sex and booze is the way forward to get rid of her lonely, vulnerable self. She destroys herself little by little and doesn’t realize how badly she’s wasted her beautiful life on the wrong things. However, though she goes around walking like a million bucks, there are times when she sounds foul and seems to display psychotic behaviour that is inconsistent with the ‘I am good girl within’ character she is trying to persuade us with.


It reminded me of a girl in campus who was almost the same. She had the same vulnerability that she tried to disguise by acting like a tough cookie. Being close to her could not have been easy because she would do everything to turn you off her track. She didn’t allow anyone to get close to her beyond a point but the truth was she was as soft as butter and good as gold within. It just took the wrong folks to find that out though. People want the moral packaging to come in demure, covered up clothes all the time. The social hypocrisy is sick and of course it still stays on in our psyche. 

In this film, we can see that Veronica is a wild child pretending to be a grown up. She enjoys partying. She is hot, sexy and knows exactly how to shock the pants off men by having several of them and not bothering to talk smooth like ladies do. When she tells “Can I pee in the car?” she definitely gets my pity. It’s a spoilt, attention seeking kid who’s talking. When she meets the smooth talking Gautam, a guy whom she knows is the ‘real’ one for her. Except that he sleeps with her but falls in love with Meera, her demure best friend instead. 



Now Meera dazzles as the orphan like Indian girl who is innocent, cheated into coming to London through a marriage alliance that had meant nothing at all to the guy who had married her.  Veronica takes her in and these two become best friends. Trouble begins when Gautam’s mother (starring Dimple Kapadia) makes an appearance. To ‘please’ his mother, Gautam introduces Meera as the girl he is with and wants to marry. Dimple begins to lavish all her love and attention on Meera as a ‘perfect bride’ for her son and she keeps a disapproving eye on the scantily clad Veronica.

Some Campus Memories 
Back to some campus memories where love, live in relationships and much more happened on the sly, outside the reality of life. I won’t mention names because it wouldn’t be right to do so. These campus friends have moved on in their life and relationships.  

I remember a hot couple in college. Cute guy. A nice looking girl. They were seeing each other for several years. Guess what? The last year of college is when the guy tells her that his mom’s having a terminal illness and that they can’t go forward with this relationship because he promised his mom to marry the one she chooses. It turns out that I heard this story from the campus grapevine. By chance, I met this guy’s terminally ill mom and asked her in general about health and it turns out she was never ill at all. What happened to the special couple? The heartbroken girl mended her heart, moved on and so did the guy. What I didn’t understand is why couldn’t he have told her the truth? If he had cared for her, he should have told her why it was over. Not because of his mom but because he didn’t have the guts to mention this girl to his family in the first place!

Later this guy dates a friend out of college but whom I had known in person. At some point, he tells her he couldn’t have told this old girlfriend the truth because she is a good girl. I’ve not understood what the campus definition of a good girl is yet. I think it’s a jaded perception.

This guy didn’t want to lose her respect. This friend broke up with him in a bad way and they turned into bitter enemies. They exchanged insults about each other’s history and well, other things too that can’t be mentioned here. Guess what he did? He charmed her best friend and took her out for a date right after! Now, if you look at this guy and perhaps many other guys and girls, the role of Gautam in Cocktail will seem pretty decent, if you know what I mean.

It's not just the Guys who Talk 
But there’s one more thing that guys need to know. It’s not just the guys who talk and boast about past relationships. Not anymore.

In Delhi, from the relationships that I have seen personally, today's girls are increasingly confident and doing the same as guys once did when it came to discussing 'history'. They are talking about the men in their lives openly amongst each other. Many girls talk about their past relationships without omitting even the most embarrassing details. Some years ago, on my first day in an office, a girl came to make friends with me. She is a nice, friendly and cheerful girl. One of the first things she mentioned was that she has had five live in relationships. She also mentioned that whoever she marries, she will tell them about it before taking the plunge. I don’t know if she did what she said she would do but what I am saying is that many of today’s girls have no hang ups about talking things over about the men in their life.

Another friend from Delhi tells me about how she got married to her first boyfriend who proposed to her in a romantic way after her second boyfriend had a tiff with her. In her case, she had been seeing her second boyfriend for five years at a stretch but one tiff was all it took for her to realize he is just not the guy she wants to be with anymore. She called it off.

Yet another friend became close friends with a guy and told him everything about the guy she was deeply in love with but they had split up for various reasons. This friend supported her emotionally through this traumatic phase. And after a few months, he told her he loves her and wants to marry her. He told her it was understandable that she would need time to get over the past but he wanted her to know he loves her deeply and wants her to be his wife. More and more girls are talking openly about their relationships and yes, some do flaunt it if they feel like it.    

Back to the film.  The plot turns strange as Gautam spends more time and Meera and tells her that though she is all ‘covered’ in layers of clothes, she is the kind of woman whom men find ‘hot’ and want to discover in their quest for love. To me, that is the most honest statement in this entire film. It pretty well sums up the overall mentality of Indian men when it coems to women they want to marry and settle down with.

There are interesting sparks of conversations in this movie Cocktail that seems more like a romantic misadventure.

But you know what; it’s worth a try because relationships are increasingly getting messed up. More and more Gautams will continue to explore and exploit their opportunities with the Veronicas and Meeras of this world. Reality is this: As long as it isn’t you in this tangle, you are safe, fine and you can enjoy it as easily as a cocktail.

C’est la vie.  

Tuesday, July 3, 2012

Gurupurnima and Guru Shishya Relationship: Why it's still significant


Today is Gurupurnima, a festival and a day of tremendous spiritual importance to Hindus and Buddhists across the world.  We, Indians, have always revered the relationship of knowledge sharing between Guru (teacher) and the Disciple (student).  This occasion of Gurupurnima is celebrated on the day of the Full Moon (Poornima). It is also known as Vyas Poornima. The significance of Guru Poornima is that spiritual seekers, disciples and students offer worship and show their gratitude and respect to their Guru (spiritual teacher) on this day. Buddhists across the world also celebrate Guru Purnima to honor and express their commitment and faith in following the teachings of  Lord Buddha. It is also believed that Lord Buddha delivered his first sermon on this auspicious day at Sarnath, in Uttar Pradesh. 

Simply put, today is the day to show and express gratitude to those whom you have learned from.

Guru-Shishya Relationship between Sri Ramakrishna and Swami Vivekananda
When my mind dwells on this beautiful relationship of Guru-Shishya bond that takes the merits of several previous lifetimes to evolve, the first person whom I think of is Swami Vivekananda. His relationship with Sri Ramakrishna Paramahansa is full of examples of how a perfect Guru-Shishya bond can illumine the heart and intellect of even a hard core atheist. During the second meeting between Sri Ramakrishna and Swami Vivekananda, it is known that when the Guru touched Naren's heart, Naren lost outward consciousness. This is a very normal experience that spiritual seekers experience in the divine presence of spiritual masters. That is what spiritual masters transfer to you - a peek into the real world, beyond all that we perceived before they came into our lives.

 If you read varied narratives about their relationship as Guru and Disciple, you are likely to come across several instances wherein other older disciples of Sri Ramakrishna were filled with jealousy and even anger that their Guru was sharing more time and knowledge with a new disciple called Naren who talked to their Guru like an equal and questioned everything the Guru said. When asked, Sri Ramakrishna revealed that in young Naren, he recognized a relationship between them that had spanned several previous lifetimes. He also said that he recognized Naren had actually been a Rishi who had come down to earth to love and serve humanity. Their story and their intense relationship portrays how the greatest love a mortal can experience is that of communion with God and Guru - both lead the self to its place of origin - and beyond the fleeting, tumultous waves of the illusory mind. 

Nature of the Mind is the Nature of Everything, Just let it Be
Like the Buddhist masters often say, "The nature of the mind is the nature of everything, as vast as the sky, as fleeting as the clouds that are meant to pass by." If we learn this simple fact and assimilate it, we would be able to respect, honor and pray for the well being of all sentient beings so that they come closer to experiencing the primordial truth of oneness. 

Bhagawan Sri Sathya Sai Baba as My God, Guru and Guide
Last but not the least, I offer my loving, grateful pranams at the lotus feet of my beloved Lord and Guru, Bhagawan Sri Sathya Sai Baba. It is He who taught me to look beyond the realms of religion to find God. He continues to guide and teach me to evolve from a good human being so as to evolve as an embodiment of divine love. The path is not as easy as it sounds. In fact, loving Bhagawan is sometimes as painful as walking on a blazing trail of fire. The fire burns your ego, crushes your bias and bad habits and turns to ashes all those material pests that gather in the fringes of one's thoughts in the form of greed, jealousy and desires. 

Most times, there are so many people who flow into your life and leave behind their influence in a good or bad way because of the experience they leave you with. Their entry into your life may scorch you due to the flames of their expectations, wants and needs and sometimes their acts that may not be acceptable to you. To show love and compassion in such situations becomes almost a painful exercise but it is possible and I am learning to handle the ropes bit by bit. In recent weeks, there have been very agonizing moments when I have felt that I am failing but then Swami would give me exactly the advice I needed. Sometimes His advice reaches me through a book or from the words of a good friend and so on. 

Basically, in everything I strive to say or do, it is Bhagawan who gives me his loving guidance and support and His constant presence helps me see the light within more clearly. 

I am most grateful to Bhagawan Sri Sathya Sai Baba for everything He has blessed me with in my life and that of my beloved family members, especially my mother.  Most importantly, I have a prayer to place at his Lotus feet.

Swami, all that I am and all that I will be
is because of Your love and blessings alone.
For all the mistakes I make and may unknowingly make,
Give me the most painful punishment 
so that to You alone I will seek refuge and solace
and in You alone I will find My soul's liberation.

Whatever You do, do not leave my heart and soul
even for a minute,
For it is Your love that keeps my heart beating. 
and my soul in search of discovering and understanding 
the effulgence within me,
that is actually YOU.

Friends, I wish you all a sacred, enlightening Guru Purnima. May the Almighty One bless you with abundant divine energy. May the spiritual masters and high souls that protect and guide you be pleased with your prayers and actions now and always. May all sentient beings in this world reach the primordial truth and ultimate happiness by detachment from the illusion of life and its materialism. May all transient beings in all worlds find and be at peace.
Samasthaa lokaa sukhino bhavanthu. 
Samasthaa lokaa sukhino bhavanthu.
Samasthaa  lokaa sukhino bhavanthu.
.
♥♥  I thank you with all my heart for reading my post. I dedicate this post with love and gratitude to all of you who love your Guru and God. May your life be forever blessed by the Guru whom you follow, with an abundance of loving thoughts and energy always. ♥♥

Sunday, July 1, 2012

Are Relationships hurting us?

"The reason it hurts so much to separate is because our souls are connected.” ― Nicholas Sparks

As we move into a technology-dominated world, I believe that the chances of most relationships hurting us and sometimes getting more complex and messy signals the natural order of things in the Universe - the choices we make as we battle conflict with others and our own expectations and desires.

As the spiritual masters often tell us, we are all manifestations of the Supreme Divine Energy and for the same reason, we are all connected to one another at some energy level or the other. Then why do things go wrong? Why do relationships turn more complex and in the process, hurt us?

While meeting up with some close friends over the weekend, I discussed this at length. Interesting views came across and I thought it would be great to share it here in a blog post. These views are not my own but that of friends with whom I had this discussion.

Getting hurt in relationships?

1. As a society, we don't accept relationships that occur in the present naturally. We feel a need to put labels on it. But in reality, we have karmic connections with hundreds of people in this lifetime at so many different levels.

2. Is it fair to label a few, leave out the rest in the order of depth, energy and connection we have with them? Can we not let relationships flow into our life normally without pinning them down with labels and therefore, the burden of expectations?

3. All relationships begin with a purpose of harmonizing the different facets in our own personality. It is we ourselves who change the harmonious aspect by our thoughts, words, reactions and of course, actions. Expectations also play a tremendous role in creating negative energy around some or perhaps many of our relationships.

4. If we take the universal Hindu approach that says "Vasudaiva kutumbakam," it sums up the timeless nature of our oneness with the Universe and the Divine energy and with each other as well.

We are all different manifestations of energies that have emerged out of one Divine Energy. In this Cosmos, time is fleeting. Do we need to let relationships control and hurt us?

Or, do we let it flow into our life naturally as it was meant to be?

Do you really need labels in your relationships? What for?
Think about the relationships in your life - the important ones, the significant ones, the small, fleeting ones. Relate these thoughts and your own experiences and lets talk about how you feel. Or rather, let me wait for you to tell me how you connect to this.

But first, a question: do you feel your relationships need a label for it to be harmoniously accepted in your present life?

Followers

FEEDJIT Live Traffic Feed

India is my Country & my Pride